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3 Tips to Follow If You Want to Become a Better You After a Divorce/BreakUp
You’ve just been through the messiest divorce/BreakUp of your life. Your life went into a complete turnaround after you found out your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend cheated on you. After moping around for weeks (or months!), you finally decided it was time to move on and start living again. The problem is you don’t know how or where to start. If you want to socialize again and go out on dates, the first thing that you need to do is create a better, stronger you. Here are three tips that can help you become a better version of yourself after going through the most grueling experience of your life.
- Do a complete makeover.
You’ve probably seen a lot of makeovers on TV, so you know what this means. All you have to do is bring yourself to the salon or spa and treat yourself to some beautiful pampering. You need to feel good about yourself, and one of the best ways to do that is to allow some changes to get hold of you. Go for a new haircut. Have a massage, foot spa, facial spa, and get your nails painted. You may even have your hair colored if you want! After a trip to the spa, head on over to your favorite boutique or department store and buy new sets of clothes. Your makeover deserves a fashionable treat!
- Change your attitude.
The first thing you need to change is how you look at yourself. Stop pitying yourself and start loving yourself more. Make yourself feel special. Tell yourself how important you are – to your family and friends. Lastly, bring back your self-confidence. Only when you believe in yourself again will people start to believe in you, too.
- Make a plan and set goals.
You cannot teach yourself to change if you do not know what you want to happen. Therefore, you need to set a goal or some goals and then draw up a plan on how to achieve them. For example, if you want to change careers, what kind of job are you planning to look for? How are you going to achieve this? Will you be going back to school? Or, if you want to start dating again, how do you plan to carry this out? Will you be joining online dating sites? Or will you rely on friends’ suggestions? These questions will help you determine what you really want to happen and how this can happen. They give you a purpose, a reason for living again.