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Dating After Divorce or A BreakUp? Here are 3 Things You Should Keep in Mind Before Going Out
Some people waste no time after a divorce or a breakup; they immediately jump back on the dating bandwagon. For many, however, going back to the dating and socializing circle is not easy as they just went through an extremely painful experience. If you’ve been single for quite some time and have been contemplating on going out and dating again, be aware that there are things you need to consider first.
- The first thing you need to learn to do: don’t expect too much.
In other words, your expectations should be realistic. For example, since you’re just getting back on the scene, don’t expect to get into a serious relationship with someone immediately. Just go with the flow. Meet as many people as you can. Enjoy and have fun. The time will eventually come when you’re ready to get serious again. In the meantime, relax and let go. This will help you forget about all the painful experiences you went through.
- Learn to feel good about yourself. Love yourself more.
Now that you have established your expectations, it’s time to focus on yourself. For people to notice you; for people to appreciate you, you need to feel good about yourself. You need to learn to love yourself more. So if you’re feeling like the most unlucky person in the world; shut off that thought and start thinking of the good things in your life. This will help make you feel good. Think of the people you love who are still around, supporting and loving you. This will make you realize your worth as a person. Loving yourself will then follow.
- Jump in only when you are ready.
Your reason for going back to the dating circle should be because you are ready to move on and start a new life. It should not be because you want to show your ex how happy you are or that you can still attract the opposite sex despite what happened to you. In other words, do not go out and date someone on the rebound. This will be unfair to the other person, and it will not be healthy for you. Date only after you have given yourself time to deal with your emotions, to relax, breathe deeply, and slowly let go of what was.